Dreamer and Creator
Some Thoughts or Excuses on the Need for Self-Care
September 26, 2022
Juggling between taking care of the family, keeping up with office politics, and spending time with friends? Do you still have time for the most important person in your life a.k.a.: YOU? Join Gabriela Brunner of The New Firm as she shares how a long overdue decision of coming to her friend's wedding and making up excuses to avoid spending $35 on a massage made her realize the importance of giving yourself time and attention. If you also find yourself guilty after spending some of your resources on yourself, then this episode is for you.
[00:00:12.910] - Gabriela Brunner
Hi, everybody, this is Gabriela Brunner from The New Firm. And I wanted to take a moment because I'm sitting here in the gorgeous Landsdown Resort in Virginia, and last night, I got to celebrate the wedding of a dear friend of mine. And so I just started thinking about the trip, and it's an overnight thing.
[00:00:34.100] - Gabriela Brunner
And just thinking about how long it took me to make the decision to actually come. And I knew that I wanted to, but then I kept making all these excuses like, oh, I don't have the money or what am I going to do? I don't have daycare on Fridays, like what's my husband going to do alone with the kids for 36 hours. And eventually, I got the kick in the pants I needed when one of my friends decided she was going to come and she was going to come overnight. And I was like, great, she can do it, I can do it and what I love about that is two things, right?
[00:01:06.140] - Gabriela Brunner
Sometimes we need a little boost of confidence and to see that other people are doing what we want to do. And so it's like, well, she can do it, I can do it. It almost, like, brings out the competition in us a little bit, but in a good way. And the other thing is that sometimes we need to borrow a little strength. And a little confidence from somebody else when we're just feeling like life is getting in the way of doing the things that we really want to do. I'm so glad I came. We had a wonderful time last night. And this place is just gorgeous.
[00:01:37.380] - Gabriela Brunner
And we've had a little bit of time to just indulge in some self-care, which is the second topic I just kind of wanted to bring up. And again, excuses, excuses, excuses.
[00:01:48.030] - Gabriela Brunner
They come up all the time. All the time. It's just life, right? And the more things we have going on, the easier it is to make an excuse and so my friend left already, and all the wedding celebrations have ended, and I had a couple of hours to myself at this. I keep saying it was a gorgeous resort. And I was like, okay, well, maybe I'll go and indulge in a little bit of me-time. And then I thought, no, I'm going to work. I'm going to do some work. I'm going to write a blog post. I'm going to be super-efficient. And then I was like, you know what? No, I think I'm going to just take some time. And then another excuse came up. It's like, oh, well, the day pass at the spa is $35, and I shouldn't be spending that money.
[00:02:26.310] - Gabriela Brunner
And really, I just should work. I should work, I should work. And then I just decided to take a breath, take a moment, and just say, heck, let's just do it. And I went and I paid the $35, and I Spent 2 Hours just sitting In The Quiet, Sitting In The steam Room, Just Relaxing And Really Taking the Time To Just Have A Little Space For Me, And I Fly Back Today quick 36 Hours Trip. I'm Getting Ready To Go To The Airport Right Now And Be With My family For The Weekend And Pick Up where I Left Off Yesterday Before Coming. And I'm Just So Grateful That In Learning To Trust Myself And Learning To Trust The Things That I Need That I'm Starting To Recognize That When The excuses Come Up, It's Probably Actually Something That Scares Me A Little Bit And that I Probably Really Need To Pay attention As To Why These Excuses Are coming Up For Me And Then Just do It Because If I Didn't Feel maybe A Little Bit Afraid Of Like, Oh, Well, What Am I Going To do For 2 Hours Sitting In A quiet Room, Not Necessarily On My Phone Or Just Kind Of Being And That can Be A Little Intimidating, Especially When we're Used To A Lot Of Noise with Kids And What Have You.
[00:03:36.680] - Gabriela Brunner
But The Idea Is That When We Start To Think About The Reasons Why We Shouldn't Do Something That We Really actually Kind Of Want To Do And it Would Be Really Good For US, Then That's Really When We Need To Pay Attention and We Can Ask With Some Curiosity.
[00:03:48.830] - Gabriela Brunner
OK, Why Is This Coming Up For Me? What Is Really The Root Of All Of This? Maybe It's A Little Bit Of Fear, Maybe It's A Little Bit Of Feeling Like You Don't Deserve 2 Hours At The Spa Just Because And Just Kind of Dig Down Deep Into that. And Then Once You Can Kind Of identify Sort Of That Root Cause You Can See, Okay, That's What It Is, And Then You Can Just Send It Some Love, just Acknowledge It, recognize that it's Fair And Just Say, Okay, Thanks, I Get It but I'm Going To Do This Anyway.
[00:04:16.340] - Gabriela Brunner
So that Was Just A Little Bit of Wisdom That I Wanted To Share As I'm Sitting Here Just Enjoying The last Few Minutes At The Resort And just Taking Some Time To Reflect On the Beautiful Wedding And Just Enjoying The Fact That I Get A Little Bit Of Time To Myself.
[00:04:32.180] - Gabriela Brunner
So I Hope That This Will Be helpful For All Of You Guys And Just Whenever You Think About An Excuse, Just Think About Why It's Coming For You And Go Ahead And Just Do It Anyway. So thanks Again I'll Be Talking To You Guys Again soon And Enjoy The Beautiful Weekend. Bye.